"Tell me... How would you feel if you knew exactly what you were supposed to do with your life?"
"You wouldn't be satisfied with anything else would you?"
This question was posed to me by a friend who received a word from a minister in his place of worship. The word pertained to her poems reaching the masses, she was born to be a poet. Ever since then, she expressed her dissatisfaction with everything else she was doing. She could land an amazing job, a few weeks in, sometimes a few days into working, a small voice will begin to echo in her head;
"You shouldn't be doing this."
"You were meant for more."
What was even more peculiar was the more she chased the life of a poet and succeeding in this, the further away this realisation was from her. The pain, the anguish, the utter confusion one must feel... I mean this was meant for me, right? Why is it so hard?
Is poetry my destiny?...
According to the oxford dictionary, destiny is defined as "what happens to someone or what will happen to them in the future, especially things that they cannot change or avoid"
Do we all have a pre-set destiny?...
"Dread it, run from it, destiny arrives all the same."
Meaning we have no control, no matter what we do, what will be will be.
In his book "Free Will" Sam Harris explains free will to be an illusion, he believes us to be "biochemical puppets". He says our thoughts and intentions "emerge from background causes of which we are unaware and over which we exert no conscious control."
We are essentially on autopilot, believing our decisions are our own. From birth, our conscious and subconscious minds are being programmed by our surroundings, which will eventually be the catalyst for our decision making once basic awareness kicks in.
This may be the key to a basic comprehension of "destiny"... We all have a purpose, some greater than others, our purpose can and does change. As a kid, my mother used to repeat a quote from pastor Mathew Ashimolowo whenever she felt the need to...
"Your geographical location will determine your future"
Personally, I believe my purpose has changed when I've dwelt in a particular environment for an extended period of time. However, this does not mean that one cannot stay steadfast in their pursuit no matter the environment.
Destiny is not be a place, or thing or even an end goal. Destiny is part of our nature, life events and experiences that happen to us, some in our control and others not. Your destiny could be what needs to happen for you to reach your purpose in this life. Whatever that might be. These days I like to think I'm in charge of my own life, however, I'm not blind to the powers that be and whatever I can't control I try to let go. What will be will be.
In C.S Lewis' book 'Surprised By Joy', He described the future as a line not yet drawn or a line that can't be seen.
This simple statement was the seed that began a life-altering journey, questioning two phenomena some believe control this entire universe –
destiny and coincidence...